Sunday, April 5, 2009

Live the Dream

"We are a community of achievers, champions of success, inspirational leaders and victorious warriors on the battlefields of excellence. Our mission is to place a positive message on our clothing and give greater voice to those succeeding and living their dreams. We challenge you to join us as we publicly and positively dispute the rising tides of mediocrity, and become conquerors, fighters, dreamers, and castle builders. The question is:
ARE YOU PREPARED?"
The above is from the website of Live the Dream, which is actually a clothing company started by a former Abercrombie & Fitch designer.  The clothes put forth a positve message of persistence and strength... for example, they have one t-shirt that says "Action Overcomes Fear".  The founder, Blake Kuhn, and his fiancee Chelsea Brown truly believe in their message of living your dreams, positivity and "fighting the rising tides of mediocrity", as is evidenced not only by their clothing line but by their blog on the Live the dream website.
This is something I believe in too, so I feel that this is a venture worthy of my support.
Their website can be found here...
They also have a Facebook group you can join if you're so inclined...

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Clarity

I wrote this last night at the behest of an online university that is considering using me as an "adjunct teaching assistant", mostly to help students sharpen their writing skills.  I thought it might be worth posting in this forum.  Here it is...

Success guru Brian Tracy has famously (and repeatedly) said “clarity is power”.  He was referring, of course, to clarity in relation to one’s personal and business success, but the same concept applies to communications, both verbal and written.  A lack of skill and understanding of the rules of grammar and spelling can often have the effect of obscuring the message one is trying to get across.  A misspelled word or misplaced comma can fundamentally change the meaning of a sentence.

There is a well-known book on grammar entitled “Eats, Shoots and Leaves”.  While the book as a whole is an entertaining read and provides a good number of easily digestible grammar lessons the title provides us with a lesson in itself.  Reading the title “Eat, Shoots and Leaves” implies that a character has had a quick bite to eat, perhaps shot someone and then left the vicinity.  Now imagine removing that comma.  The phrase would now be “Eats Shoots and Leaves”.  This brings to mind a rather more benign image of an animal (perhaps the panda on the book’s cover) merely eating some shoots and leaves.

One’s grammar and spelling can also have a significant effect on the perception others might have of you.  I happen to be single and I have spent some time on the internet dating sites that are so popular these days.  I have recently retired from the use of such sites for a variety of reasons.  One of those reasons is that so many of the profiles of prospective daters are riddled with severe spelling and grammatical errors, often to the point of laughability.  These very same women may be as intelligent and well-spoken as anyone else (if not more so) but I certainly have to wonder given the lax amount of attention given to their written communications.  I also am forced to wonder about their attention to detail and personal discipline.  Word processors with spell check that will even give grammar help are readily available so this somewhat begs the question of how much effort or care these individuals have put into their profiles.

The same could be said about perception in an academic environment.  Imagine a student who has prepared an otherwise excellent essay for, say, a business class.  They may have come up with some original, perhaps even groundbreaking thoughts about organizational development in high-growth companies.  They might have conducted endless hours of research and interviews.  Unfortunately, when they turn in this paper with awkward grammar and poor spelling, this will have an adverse effect on their grade and such errors will often obscure the point they are trying to make.

The ultimate intent of following the rules of grammar and spelling is not to be regimented for it’s own sake, but rather to provide a degree of clarity that will enable the writer’s ideas to shine forth, rather than be hidden under layers of poor writing and spelling.  I always encourage people I know to shore up their writing skills as best they can.  This ensures that their letter, resume, term paper or what have you will communicate what it’s intended to and the writer’s ideas will have the chance they deserve to heard.

Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Acknowledgements

I finished my novel today.
This is a pretty big deal in that I really didn't know that I would ever get it done.  Yet somehow I did it.  I've had my fair share of challenges and heartache of late.  Rather than letting all that break me, I poured everything I could into my writing.  I say this not to brag.  I say this to remind all of you that, the next time your life is full of challenges and you feel overwhelmed, you can use that negative energy, turn it on it's head and accomplish something.  I do know there's still a long road ahead of me.  Many revisions are at hand, I'm sure.  Then there's the issue of (gulp) trying to find and agent and see if some publisher actually might think it worthy. There's the Chinese proverb that says, "the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."  Granted, I have taken a big step, but there are still many miles ahead
I encourage you to read the acknowledgments below.  Whether or not the novel actually gets published I do believe that the people who had something to do with it being written deserve some sort of public kudos, so here you go.
You may wonder about this nameless "angel" that I pour such effusive praise on. This is someone that has had an enormous positive impact on my life.  I was at a low ebb of self-confidence and this person was able to lift me back up, force me to take a good, hard look in the mirror and push me back to where I was truly in the thick of life, a place I had not been in many, many years.  We should all have an angel of our own at some point in our lives, someone who believes in you and is proud of you no matter what, someone who can make you believe in yourself again, no matter what damage the years and miles have wrought.  It really doesn't matter if this person is in your life for a day, a month or your whole life.  They will generally appear when needed.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
A great many people have had something to do with the writing of this, my first novel.  I will try to remember all of you.
Always first and foremost, there's my boys, Peter, David and Jonathan.  Guys, if you're reading this, that means you really can do anything you set your mind to.  Told you so!
Then there's my angel... you are forever my best friend, my cheering section and my muse.  You helped me find the best parts of me again, things I thought were forever lost. You taught me how to turn bad into good and reminded me that I actually do deserve to achieve my dreams.  I can honestly say that without you, this novel would never have been completed. I told you that you were going to make me famous and remember, there's always going to be a place in my heart that's yours and yours alone.
To my "little sister" Carrie and her husband Bill, my other best friends.  Your friendship means the world to me. I'd say "may all your dreams come true", but that's already happening.
To Christina and Jennifer, there are parts of this story that are dedicated to you guys. You both know which ones they are.
To my mom and dad...thanks for believing in me and encouraging me.
To Barry Eisler and Joseph Finder.  Your writing continues to entertain and gives me something to aspire to.  Thanks also for encouraging us budding writers and being all-around good guys.
To my Facebook friends, especially Penny, Peggy and Shalom.  Thanks for all your inspiration and encouragement.
To Michelle, the best teacher/ soldier I know.  Thanks for your unceasing positive attitude and research help.
Just as important, this novel is dedicated to everyone who ever wanted to change their life and took the chance to grow through adversity.  I did it and so can you!